The Mental Load of Motherhood: What It Is and How to Reduce It

A transformative Dutch approach that lets mothers lift their own babies during a C-section — turning a surgical birth into a deeply personal, empowering experience.

For many women, birth is imagined as a vaginal delivery with skin-to-skin contact and an immediate connection with their baby. Sometimes, though, birth takes another path — a caesarean section. While life-saving and safe, it can feel very medical and clinical.
Since 2017, there’s been a new alternative: the Mother-Assisted Caesarean (MAC), developed in the Netherlands by dr. Koen Deurloo (Diakonessenhuis Utrecht). This approach makes a surgical birth more personal — literally placing the moment of birth back into the mother’s hands.
Key takeaways
• A mother-assisted C-section (MAC), also called a maternal-assisted caesarean, lets you lift your own baby out during a planned caesarean and straight onto your chest.
• It was developed in 2017 by gynecologist Koen Deurloo at Diakonessenhuis Utrecht in the Netherlands.
• In nearly 200 MAC births in Utrecht, safety outcomes matched gentle caesareans, and more mothers breastfed within the first hour (88.9% vs. 78.7%).
• A MAC is planned in advance and is not offered in emergencies, so bring it up early with your gynecologist or midwife.
PS. If a MAC is something you want, it belongs in your birth preferences. The Mamamoon online birth classes app helps you prepare for birth week by week, and you can book a 30-minute call with Kasia to go through your birth preferences before you talk to your gynecologist or midwife.
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In a MAC, the sterile drape is lowered, and the mother’s hands are guided to the incision. The baby is born into her hands, then with help from the gynecologist, lifted out of the womb and placed directly skin-to-skin on her chest.
It’s a small technical adjustment, but one with a big emotional impact. Instead of being a passive patient, the mother becomes an active participant in her child’s birth.
The distinction matters: MAC is not just a softer atmosphere, but a fundamentally different experience of agency and connection.
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Between 2017 and 2025, we compared nearly 200 MAC births with 200 gentle caesareans in Utrecht. The findings are clear:
In short: safe for mother and baby, but emotionally more powerful.
Birth is more than a medical event, it’s a life moment. For many women, especially those who carry scars from earlier births, being able to actively welcome their child helps transform the caesarean from “just surgery” into a deeply meaningful experience.
MAC is not possible in every setting or every situation. Emergencies, high-risk pregnancies, or surgical complications may require a different approach. It also demands a trained, motivated operating team and clear protocols. But where feasible, it offers a safe, personal alternative.
Mothers often describe their MAC as “healing” and “unforgettable.” Partners and staff also reflect on the unique atmosphere it brings into the operating theatre.
Want to read more real stories from mothers, partners, and professionals? Visit the MACazine, a digital magazine dedicated to the MAC.
A maternal-assisted C-section is another name for the mother-assisted caesarean (MAC): a planned caesarean in which the mother helps lift her baby out and onto her chest. Hospitals in the US and Australia usually call it a maternal-assisted cesarean.
A mother-assisted C-section works like a planned caesarean, with one extra step for the mother. Before the operation, she scrubs her hands and forearms and puts on a sterile gown and gloves. When the baby is about to be born, the drape is lowered and the gynecologist delivers the baby’s head and shoulders. The mother’s hands are then guided to her baby, and together they lift the baby out and onto her chest — where the baby stays skin-to-skin while the team completes the operation.
A mother-assisted C-section proved as safe as a gentle caesarean in Utrecht: across nearly 200 MAC births compared with 200 gentle caesareans, blood loss, complication rates and Apgar scores were the same. A MAC took about four minutes longer on average.
A mother-assisted C-section is usually not possible in an emergency. The mother needs time to scrub in and the team needs time to prepare, so a MAC is planned in advance. If you would like one, bring it up early with your gynecologist or midwife and add it to your birth preferences. Once the drape is lowered, your partner will see the operation too, so talk about it together beforehand.
The mother-assisted C-section started at Diakonessenhuis Utrecht and is now offered by some hospitals in the Netherlands, the United States and Australia. Not every team offers it, so ask whether your hospital has done one before.
The mother-assisted caesarean was developed in 2017 by gynecologist Koen Deurloo at Diakonessenhuis Utrecht in the Netherlands.
The Mother-Assisted Caesarean combines surgical safety with human connection. Developed in Utrecht in 2017, it shows that even in the operating theatre, birth can be something that mothers truly hold in their own hands.
This article was prepared by the Mamamoon team, together with Koen Deurloo, our Medical Advisor, and Inge Berken, a birth photographer who is specialized in c-sections.
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